Relationship Counselling - Abuse

Abuse

Abuse can take many forms. The areas I work specifically work with include:

• Emotional Abuse
• Sexual Abuse

Each type of abuse is treated differently and my approach is to see where giving and taking has a role to play in the dynamic that makes up abuse.

In your session, as we start to work on the issue, we will get clear around what constitutes the abuse. This can have its roots in many areas and these will be revealed as we shine the light in dark corners to bring you to a place, not only where you can look, but where 'going there' no longer feels like it will collapse you internally.

Symptoms of Abuse include:

• unfairly and regularly accuses the other of flirting or being unfaithful
• controls how the other spends money.
• decides what the other wears or eats.
• humiliates their partner frequently in front of other people.
• monitors what their partner is doing, including reading emails and text messages.
• discourages or prevents their partner from seeing friends and family.
• threatens to hurt their partner, the kids or their pets
• physically assaults their partner (hitting, biting, slapping, kicking, pushing)
• yells at their partner, frequently.
• threatens to use a weapon against their partner.
• constantly compares their partner with other people.
• constantly criticises their partner's intelligence, mental health and appearance.
• prevents their partner from practicing their religion.

Sexual Abuse: 
Together we look to see what has been taken without being given, and how to find meaning in what happened. Like a sapling grows into a tree, we look at ways to strengthen you before we even start to look in the direction of the abuse. 

Emotional Abuse:
Emotional abuse can be debilitating if left unchecked. Common terms in use these days also include gaslighting, stonewalling and narcissist. You can be sure that you need to book an appointment if you find that these terms are being bandied about in conversations around you or your partner, and you can see the truth in them. 

​Please also download and complete the confidentiality form and bring it to your first session.

NOTE: 
If you are in immediate danger, call 000
If you are at crisis point, or experiencing physical abuse - call DVConnect.
These organisations have significant resources that will see you brought to safety if needed.